The Short Explanation:
You posted one of the following things more than once (especially relevant if I talked to you about it):
- Anti-gay material
- Anti-gay slurs
- Triggers for self harm, eating disorders, and/or suicide (Confused? x / x)
- Jokes about self harm, EDs, and/or suicide
- Rape jokes
- Victim-blaming or “slut-shaming” content
- Extremely judgmental posts about others opinions
- Posts being generally derogatory or prejudiced, even as jokes
These are pretty much an immediate unfollow from me, unless I know you in person in real life, in which case I’ll probably talk to you about it first. A repeat offense, though, is pretty much a promise to unfollow. Also, sometimes I will refollow if you’ve been posting triggers during a tough time but stop doing so.
If you have questions about these things, ask me.
The Long Explanation
So I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the people I tend to surround myself with, and how, up until this point, I’ve tended to build my relationships with a certain degree of compromise and neutrality. I don’t ike to cause arguments or rock the boat or anything, I guess.
But I’ve realized that constantly being bothered by things that people say or do and not feeling like I can or should speak out against those things, and then still considering that person a friend… that’s not good for me. It annoys me and upsets me and makes me angry and hurt and offended.
Thankfully, leaving for college has kind of automatically purged my real-life friend group of these sorts of love/hate relationships. Unfortunately, it hasn’t done the same for my online people.WHich brings me to Tumblr and some of the things I see frequently on my dash: slurs, bigotry, insensitivity, and general ignorance.
I do have Tumblr Saviour, and I DO use it, but I think it says something about the people I follow when I have to out in the words “fag/got,” “rape,” and “nigger” because I see them so frequently.
That being said, I’ll be unfollowing some people in the coming days. It’s not that I dislike you as a person; if I did, I never would have followed you in the first place. It’s that there’s a high enough frequency of things I find offensive or things I disagree with within your posts that I’m just tired of seeing.
There comes a point where no amount of liking you have for someone makes their vulgarity or prejudice okay. And I’ve just generally reached that point.