VIDEOS *you need to watch these*
What Does Depersonalization/Derealization Feel Like?
How I Healed from Severe Depersonalization/Derealization
Body Scanning- This is a method of relaxation where you mentally scan your body, noticing each area to help expand mind/body awareness, release tension, and quiet the mind.
**CAUTION for body image issues- if you’re not ready body scanning can be very upsetting!!
Grounding Technique- The purpose of grounding is to gain to regain connection with your body, mind, and spirit in the present moment so as to feel safe, calm, and in control.
Muscle Relaxation Technique- This exercise is used to relax your mind and body by progressively tensing and relaxing muscle groups throughout the entire body to create awareness.
- If I say “no” to someone and they get angry, this does not mean I should have said “yes.”
- Saying “no” does not make me selfish.
- Although I want to please the people I care about, I do not have to please them all the time.
- It is okay to want or need something from someone else.
- My wants and needs are just as important as those of anyone else.
- I have the right to assert myself, even if I may inconvenience others.
Seizure First Aid.
Learn it. Share it. Know it. Use it.
100% correct medical information on tumblr for once; also consider calling 911 if you don’t know how often the person has seizures and ESPECIALLY if the seizure has lasted 5 minutes or more (which is why the watch is critical)
as a person who has suffered multiple seizures, and will most likely and unfortunately have more, this is a major need on my blog. everyone needs to know these facts!
1. Presume competence. This applies to people with physical and/or mental disabilities. Never assume that a disabled person isn’t cognizant of their surroundings.
2. Respect their autonomy. Always ask if a disabled person needs help. If they decline help, don’t force your “help” on them.
3. Don’t ask invasive questions. This goes twice for trans people with disabilities. For example, don’t ask how a physically disabled person goes to the bathroom. If you wouldn’t like it if someone asked you a particular question, chances are LGBTQ people with disabilities wouldn’t like it either.
4. Include accessibility when you talk about having sex. First and foremost, as is with any sexual relationship: always and continually ask for consent. Second, if your partner has a sensory processing disorder or is Autistic, take their sensory issues into account. Ask what their sensory issues are before having sex and explain, in detail, what you are planning to do. Third, if, at any time before or during sex, your partner is uncomfortable with continuing, stop.
5. Don’t presume that a disabled person is straight/nonsexual/cisgender. Too often, people assume that disabled people are straight/nonsexual/cisgender. There is nothing wrong with identifying this way, but you should never make assumptions about someone else’s identity.
THIS IS SO FUCKING REAL GUYS.
Pro tip: if someone conservative tells you you’re “going off the rails” because you got a tattoo or had some sex or whatever, you can annoy them immensely by replying “Sure. I’m laying my own tracks because I found a more optimal route to success”.
I am a positive person but I get really tired of aggressive optimism. If someone’s sad, let them be sad. All emotions have purpose. Sadness isn’t destructive if not prolonged. Sadness isn’t unproductive, as it offers awareness. Telling someone to “cheer up” or “be happy” is so ineffective and patronizing. The last thing a sad person needs is for someone to judge their feelings as pointless and unappealing. Welcome sadness, just don’t let it consume you.
There once was a young boy with a very bad temper. The boy’s father wanted to teach him a lesson, so he gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper he must hammer a nail into their wooden fence.
On the first day of this lesson, the little boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. He was really mad!
Over the course of the next few weeks, the little boy began to control his temper, so the number of nails that were hammered into the fence dramatically decreased.
It wasn’t long before the little boy discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.
Then, the day finally came when the little boy didn’t lose his temper even once, and he became so proud of himself, he couldn’t wait to tell his father.
Pleased, his father suggested that he now pull out one nail for each day that he could hold his temper.
Several weeks went by and the day finally came when the young boy was able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.
Very gently, the father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.
“You have done very well, my son,” he smiled, “but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same.”
The little boy listened carefully as his father continued to speak.
“When you say things in anger, they leave permanent scars just like these. And no matter how many times you say you’re sorry, the wounds will still be there.”
This was really an amazing and necessary thing to read right now.
that’s some Mufasa-deep shit